"Everybody called it the perfect revenge song, but that's not what it was. It's a devastated song, and in order to pull out of that despondency, being angry is lovely. I think the movement of anger can pull us out of things. If I was writing it to get revenge I’d be plastering the picture of this man everywhere and saying his name to everyone, but I’m not and I won’t. It was written for myself. I’m secretly grateful to him for ending the relationship.'' - Alanis Morissette
''It was written from a desperate, dark, almost pathetically sad place within my subconscious, a conversation I was having with my own psyche - it's a line as potent as any other on the record.'' - Alanis Morissette
"The context is important. I didn't know that many people would be hearing the song. I was writing it to get it out of my body, the same way I would speak to a therapist or my best friend. If I didn't speak about it, I would have gotten sick. It was very cathartic. I thought that writing songs with these subject matters in them would mean I wouldn't have to talk to human beings. But having sung 'You Oughta Know' countless times over the years, the relationship itself was still tinged with pain, and I quickly came to see that the process of writing these songs was very cathartic, but it wasn't healing - I still had to interact with human beings to resolve things." - Alanis Morissette
''THE STORY BEHIND THE SONG''
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